You don’t need someone to lose, so you can win
In fact, ‘winning’ is a lie. This struck a serious chord with me.
I’ve never cared much about money. I understand it’s value, i know i need it, but don’t really care how much anyone else has compared to me. I’ve never cared about sharing my salary (stupid that it’s so “secret” in corporate culture), or telling someone how much my house or car cost, because they’r not symbols to me. I don’t care if your house cost 2x what mine did or half what mine did. I need a car, i bought the car we agreed was a good one. Same with our house, we didn’t buy the biggest we could find or anything, we knew where we wanted to live, bought a place we could afford. It has the rooms we need, no more.
I’ve never looked at a thing and thought, “this is great, because it’s only for me.”
BUT, that’s not our society as a whole. Sadly I’m in the minority. I’d never quit a job because someone else got a raise, big or small. For me first class IS about the seats, i don’t care what anyone else is doing on the plane. (examples in the mentioned post)
Why? How did i end up this way? Beats me, I’m sure it’s my parents fault, or maybe the Buddhist book i stole from a hotel in high school. Whatever it is, i wish more Americans had it, felt it, whatever.
Sure, I want enough money to buy food, a new car when it’s time. I want to take trips and see the world, but beyond that I don’t need more than my neighbor, I don’t need a trip that’s more special than anyone else. I don’t need a car that cost more. I don’t need more bedrooms. And I certainly don’t care to compare myself or my things to someone else. I definitely don’t need someone else to have less than me, so that what i have feels special.
Enlightened? Grown up? I don’t know, but I do think we should all be aspiring to it.